So here what I'm going to do I'm going to kind of interconnect Steps Six and seven because this these
are the two steps that present us with quite a number of choices that you're going to hopefully be able
to recognize within a few moments.
Giving something back is when we reach a stage in life that we accept we appreciate.
We acknowledge we are able to identify and see the value that we have within us as human beings.
If we have ever loved anyone then we're loving which means that we have the ability to laugh.
And if we have the ability to love that means that we have the ability to love more.
Not perfectly but more if we care.
And that means we have the ability to caring.
No we might not be perfectly caring but we do have the ability to be more caring to care for more people.
If we have the ability to eat give and then that means that we have the ability to give and if we know
how to give then we can always give more.
It might be the case that we don't have money to get.
But the one thing that we are that we all have today right now is pain and to be honest with you the
most valuable commodity you can ever share with another human being is your time.
You can share your money.
You can share your stuff.
You can share your dabdoub.
But if you give your time to someone you can get that time back.
Your time is the most valuable commodity that you own you possess.
There's been given unto you which means you've got to use this time wisely because if you spend it unwisely
we are never going to get our time back.
So giving something back I would just like to offer you an idea here.
If we want to give something back then what is the most valuable thing that we could give all this time.
If you think about it.
I once heard the saying in life that hurt people hurt people.
And in the same way that people can break people.
Some people can make people.
The main place that most heart comes from in life is through a one experience the experience that we
have for their parents and life.
Some people grow up telling themselves that they are worthless they're useless they are they're still
have that because their parents didn't seem to take too much of an interest and never fell in love.
They never felt unconditionally accepted.
And what I have come to appreciate at this stage of my life is that whilst I wouldn't have any children
yet I'm not a dad.
But over the last umpteen years a half assumed the role of a father figure a role model for many young
guys and this isn't something that I could ever justify being paid for.
It's not something I would ever even receive payment for.
It's not something I would want to be paid for.
It's something that I genuinely want to give.
I guess that what makes my life makes sense is when crawling up I never had the fortune of having a
father figure a role model who was interested in me.
No one else.
Many people in life use rejections like that to crush them and weigh them down.
I did for quite a few years but after realizing and accepting my intrinsic value I take that life experience
off my shoulders where it was previously weighing me down.
I dropped on the floor and I stand on it because that is my life experience because I understand what
it is not to have a father figure or model.
That means that if I choose to be a father figure or model for others it makes my life makes sense.
It means that past experience in my life hasn't been wasted.
I know what it is to go without it which means I understand the value of what it is to receive.
So giving something back.
The greatest gift the you can give someone else this Christmas today or tomorrow is you.
You don't have to be any better than how you are right now.
You don't have to be any smarter any wiser any more skilled.
You don't need any more techniques.
All you need is genuine compassion for people.
If you care about people just give them your years as a life coach.
Just give someone your time give them your attention.
Give me three years.
People come for life coaching nine times out of 10.
They just want someone who's going to this.
To them they wouldn't always go to counsellors or therapists because of the many you know misconception
labels that are placed on some therapists.
As a life coach in many life coaches are seen as kind of a safe place.
People just want to talk.
So sometimes the most empowering gaffer you can give someone else is your time your attention your interest
and just be genuinely interested.
Be interested in coming to understand them because if you just want to understand them then you are
naturally going to figure this out.
Any way you're going to ask appropriate and relevant questions through the course we've looked at some
really interesting communications skills some styles some language pattern as well looked at goal setting
processes techniques that people always are and always have been self-governing.
Everyone's looking forward looking forward to ways into the day where they are able to move forward
and reach that place in life.
We fundamentally want to be just become the conduit just become that person.
Join me in the middle of the go between where they are and where they want to be.
Ask questions be interested motives to attend.
That's going to be more than enough to give those people that come to you.
Exactly what is the the actually want exactly what it is they were actually looking for.
So giving something back the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
Money comes money goes stuff goes stuff goes.
When our is consistent.
The economy rises the economy falls.
Your time is always limited and therefore if you give your time to someone it's not something you'll
ever go back.
Which means that the most valuable commodity that you have to give my friend is your time.
No.
When I see this I'm talking with our son luthor ATI under authenticity because it was the lowest point
in my life.
I had my first life coaching experience through a guy called Pete was Pete a psychologist.
Was he a philosopher was he a sociologist.
Was he a therapist.
No he wasn't he was actually just a real guy.
He was actually a builder who my life hit rock bottom.
I didn't know where else the turn I was doughnut hole and he was a guy that didn't need to jump in the
hole with me.
But he's dead.
It was the guy who took me under his wing for around about six months when I didn't know where else
to turn.
He was just a friend.
What I'm seeing here is that I do know what intentions you halve for using what I've shared with you
through this course and may be the case you are Europe already practicing as a life coach and maybe
a therapist or any practitioner a hypnotist something like that or you might be taking this course as
a parent or a guardian in view of coaching and mentoring and just being a better parent for your kids.
You may want to be a better husband for your wife for a better wife fear a husband there are better
friends there could be any reason why you've taken this course at this point here.
This last of the seven steps is kind of the pinnacle the culmination of everything and this whole course
has been pointing towards.
And it's actually in the very heart of life coaching is not the theory it's not the models it's not
the exercises it's not the techniques it's the very heart.
I was another whole key jumped into that hole with me.
And in the same way he helped me out of my hole.
You start to potentially be the person that jumps in the hole with other people because this gives us
three choices that we can make in life.
Step Seven You may be at a stage in life right now where you are in a hole in the context of your own
life and you're looking for a kid to jump in the hole with you in which case and when it arja and encourage
you to keep on looking find the mentor get your own coach find a trusted friend.
Whatever it is don't stop looking.
Make a decision a change make a decision.
Find someone processed persevere and then stop looking until you find that person is right for you.
If you struggle to find this person who is who you trust who's there is to jump in a hole with you.
Then take the next best thing.
But don't stop looking for a Pete.
The third option here if you are in a place in life where your life is pretty balanced.
If Kenny got things all together you're doing okay.
Yeah.
There's no real major decisions you need to make in your life right now.
If things are going alright the next course of action that you envisage taken in life is clear that
Raul jumped in the hole with other people.
You've already committed a.
You've taken stock you would find some areas of personal growth you've taken this course and you've
no sooner through the completion there will be some junk that you're already decherd and moving forward
into the future.
There will be more junk that you continue to do which you know focus solely on giving back you can make
it as you go and find a PS or for the rest of your days you can commit to being that person jumped in
the hole with other people and be happy for as many other people as you physically can because believe
it or not this is what the world is absolutely screaming out for people who will just simply make themselves
available to serving others.
Whilst most people much of the world focuses on what a king gets.
Not many people in fact only a very few a small few.
My new number ever focus on giving something back and even the kind that people can make their friends
for others.
So you can find a.
You can look for happy you can keep on looking.
Take the next best thing or you can choose to be happy for other people.
And this is pretty much the essence of the seven step coach and framework because if you think about
it you might have been relating most of this stuff to you but if you could convey this message to other
people however it is that you would choose to convey that it will eventually help them to make sense
of their lifes too because if are in a hole they are most likely going to be forecast on what theyve
not got how theyre not feeling how it is that theyre not at that place in life where they primarily
want to be.
So guess what.
If there's stuff weighing people down then you can be the person that jumps and picks up some of the
bardin help some to lift her up take it off.
Drop it so that moving forward for the rest of their life they are no longer crushed by their pasts
but they're using their past as a foundation to leverage off to help our invest and saw in to others.
So the seven steps make a decision to change once you have made a decision to change or your client
has made the decision to change.
Take action or help them take action.
You're going to be able to identify that they are either committed or they are not and if they are they
are going to be taken stock as are you.
But the next practical steps that they or you need to be taken to get closer to where it is are you
want to be from wherever it is you are along the road from this day forth for the rest of our life.
We're all going to be in the process of ditching the junk.
Why.
Because none of us are perfect.
Suits these imperfections are are looking to identify and catch as soon as physically possible.
Giving something back is what makes our life makes sense.
In life we can focus on getting which is nice.
Getting makes people feel happy.
But it's only giving that allows people to experience fulfilment.
And as we've already established a few times no fulfilment is better than happiness.
We do this through being the kind of person for other people that we've actually always secretly wanted
for ourselves so we can wrap this whole section up by referring back to the golden rule that a shared
with year earlier on in the course.
And this is the kind of person for other people that you would have them for a year.
This is one of these golden rules the society has fundamentally been built on.
If the society in which you live is dysfunctional it's because people are no choosing alternative foundations.
So if you want to see change in your culture then become the change.
Lead by example become the change that you want to see.
Show other people on austerity have way of living life through your actions through the way in which
you conduct yourself through the way in which you communicate and through the way in which you are for
them.
Commit the rest of your life towards being a Pete and along the way as you build new relationships.
Lead by example and help them become keets to give him the fish you eat for a day and he will forever
be dependent on you.
Teach a man who a fresh and eat for a lifetime which is nice but we know that human beings have a habit
of becoming completely self consumed and.
Some people will just see to really flesh They'll get fat.
But let's be the kind of people who commit our lives to teaching other people how to fish because if
we get good at their stand together we can be the people that play a crucial part in ending world hunger.
I do appreciate if this is some Seems like some sort of cheesy cliche but it's it's not.
It's a vision that we can adopt and build into a life that will make our life.
There were life coaching fundamentally make sense.
So I hope you found this interesting insightful fascinating.
It's not like there's actually any to do lists or exercises that you can take this seven step coaching
framework is something I fundamentally understand and that really is all things to all the time helps
me to understand where I'm at in life but also helps me to understand where other people are too.
So I hope this makes sense to you.
And if there's anything that I've shared that just doesn't make complete sense let me know.
Question for me.
So I can potentially do some more videos for you.
Q Any section of the course which is going to be coming on next saw any additional material section
of this video.
We've put together a mini workbook with a few stories in it that are just going to hopefully shed shed
a few more insights and lies about all of this and how you can go on to apply.
But other than this.
I look forward to seeing you and the questions and answers section of the course.